"Assimilationism means the gay quarterback gets to be homecoming king, but the freshman who likes wearing make-up and listening to showtunes is still a faggot."
A friend of mine asked me to what ‘gay assimilationism’ means, and that’s the most accurate definition I could come up with.
You might also recognize it as the “we’re just like you” doctrine promoted by groups like the Human Rights Campaign and people like Dan Savage.
Gay assimilationists (and they are gay assimilationists, non-monosexuals and trans* folk aren’t invited) argue that
queergay people should conform to the standards of straight society in appearance, action and aspiration.
They wish to portray the gay community as uniformly heteronormaitve in everything but their sexuality, as well as exclusively white and middle class.