allbymylonesomeagain replied to your postsinidentidades replied to your photo: Actual…

i really feel like people like him should just say: “I like Penis.” It saves so much time, energy and fuckery.

Well even that is probably not the case, since he probably would be attracted to people with penises if they’re women or maybe even genderqueer or nonbinary people. He probably means he’s attracted to cis men, which is just boring.

bearvivant replied to your photo: Actual cissexist asshole who lack self awareness…

how is there no such thing as a male body? i wouldn’t say this makes him a “cissexist”. he obviously means he’s attracted to cis men- and that’s fine.

He probably is saying he’s only attracted to cis men, but that is entirely different from saying he’s attracted to people with male bodies. If people identify as male, their bodies are male, regardless of their assignment at birth.

Attraction is definitely really complicated and while it’s a personal thing and really shouldn’t be anyone’s business, it’s important to recognize that our attraction is informed and shaped by the world, which is, among other things, cissexist, and we oftentimes uphold these standards with these statements which, among other things, treat all non-cis people as if they are a monolithic people. All non-cis people do not look the same and saying you are not attracted to someone just because they are not cis is actually really cissexist.

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bearvivant replied to your post: Things I can’t believe we’re still talking about

how isn’t “die cis scum offensive”?

It’s a pretty understandable reaction to a lifetime of oppression, and as cis people especially it’s not our job to evaluate the way trans* folk express their rage. If people get their feelings hurt it’s a better idea to evaluate why they wanna make transphobia about themselves rather than dismantling cissexism.

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dariusmarq replied to your post: A guy from my anthropology class looked at my Okcupid profile, and he’s actually really cute and a POC and says lots of really smart and interesting stuff.

Go for it girlie. You can get him.

Gurl I’m like 6 pants sizes past “overweight”, tho!

aww dang =/

It’s alright, tho. Not my fault he’s not ready for this jelly.

forever a deal breaker. also the question about feeling safe around cops.

Yeah, that question might as well just be, “are you white?”