"Strongly anti-black actions have also often entailed a visceral hate dimension, what Joel Kovel has called the “madness” of white racism. In his pathbreaking analysis of white fear, another important emotion we have already noted, Kovel has argued that whites typically reject blackness and black bodies because they project their own fears, often rooted in childhood, into the dark otherness of an objectified black person. In the childhood socialization process, most whites learn, consciously or unconsciously, to associate black people and blackness with dirt, danger, ignorance, or the unknown. For this reason, the black targets of white hostility and discrimination are not seen as “one of us.” The racialized others become a general “they” or “you people” to be marginalized, excluded, or otherwise discriminated against. Over time, white racist thought and action also involves a massive breakdown of positive emotions such as empathy, the human capacity to experience the feelings of members of an outgroup unlike your own."

Joe Feagin, The White Racial Frame (via wretchedoftheearth)

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"I cannot believe, in retrospect, that I was ever conned into believing that talking about feelings with a dude you were hooking up with was this embarrassing uncool thing that only clingy girls did. Today, if somebody I was boning, however casually, got judge-y or weird on me because I tried to have a conversation about my feelings, I would laugh out loud, walk out and then make fun of him to all my friends. Seriously? Feelings are not spiders or the Ebola virus. If a guy gets “scared” when you try to discuss yours with him, you should dump him and find a new hookup buddy who isn’t terrified about something that your average kindergartner can handle hearing about on Sesame Street."

Semi-Secret Affairs, Smanging, and the 88 Percent | The Hairpin

And this is why I always read the comments. Holy shit, AMEN.

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