QUEERING THE GAME OF LIFE

"While communicating consent may seem like it only matters in the early stages of a romantic relationship, it is also an issue for long-term couples. Granted, if you have been intimate with someone for a while you probably have a sense of their preferences and boundaries (and if you don’t, you might want to start paying more attention). But something that felt good before may suddenly become uncomfortable. If that happens, the same rules apply. If it’s your boundaries that have changed, be willing to say so. Length of relationship does not cancel out consent, so if you’re the one being told to stop, stop."

http://www.theaggie.org/2012/01/10/column-sex-ed-2/

Again, this was the first column I wrote.  I will say it again and again:  length of relationship does not cancel out consent.

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reclaiming femme: queer women of colour & femme identity

lovingblackness:

“Learning from the experiences of queer femmes of colour is paramount to building an inclusive, anti-racist queer movement. Too often, femmes of colour find that only parts of their identities are recognized; they do not conform to acceptable standards of heterosexual femininity or androgynous/masculine lesbianism. Ortiz, for example, describes herself as existing in-between communities. Latina communities regularly perceive her to be white, and queer communities perceive her to be heterosexual. Ortiz’s situation reflects Muñoz’s astute observation that queers of colour must face the barrier of white normativity as well as heteronormativity. Often, the queer community is not a place in which queers of colour have their identities affirmed and respected. Amy André, a “mixed-race bisexual African American Jew,” echoes Ortiz’s sentiment of being rendered invisible within the queer community because of her feminine gender presentation. In addition to being perceived by straight men as sexually available, she must constantly re-assert her queer identity within the lesbian community. As long as white, masculine gender presentation is seen as the queer body ideal, queer femmes of colour will continue to be invisible. Queers, as members of a community that places so much emphasis on deconstructing gender roles, must reject the sexist and racist notions that femininity is inferior to masculinity and that all queers have access to white privilege.”

 + reclaiming femme: queer women of colour & femme identity

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jadethuy:

Can’t stand the song but LOVE LOVE LOVE the video!

this video makes me wanna cry.

i love it though.

I was indifferent about the song until I watched the video. Now I love the song.

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costumepartypolitics:

asesina:

“Gossip Folks (featuring Ludacris)” by Missy Elliott

This is honestly one of my favorite songs…

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